My Indecisive Heart: A Constant Battle (and Why It's Okay)

Okay, so I posted that little caption the other day and you guys, the comments were wild. So many of you were like, "OMG same, Lo!" and it just made me feel so much better bc honestly, sometimes I feel like I'm the only adult walking around who still needs to poll the entire internet (and my family, and my friends, and sometimes even strangers hahah) before I can decide what to eat for dinner, let alone what color to paint the living room. It's a real thing, my freakin indecisiveness. Like, why am I still like this? I'm a mom of three, I run a business, I should be able to make a decision, right? But nope. My brain just goes into overdrive, weighing every single pro and con until I'm just paralyzed. It's exhausting, tbh. And it's not just big things, it's literally everything. Do I wear the black shirt or the white shirt? Do I get the iced coffee or the hot coffee? Do I get the cute little vase or the other cute little vase? It's a constant internal debate, and then I drag everyone else into it too. Curse my freakin indecisiveness, I tell ya. But also, I'm learning to be a little kinder to myself about it, bc I think it comes from a place of wanting to make the *best* choice, you know? Wanting to make sure whatever I do, it's gonna be good for my family, or good for me, or just... the right vibe. And sometimes, that just means I need a little extra help figuring out what that "right vibe" is. So, if you're out there feeling the same way, just know you're not alone. We're all in this indecisive boat together, and it's totally okay. :,)

The "Why" Behind My Opinion-Seeking Ways

So, why do I do it? Why do I ask everyone for their opinions? I've thought about this a lot, and I think it boils down to a few things. First, I genuinely value the people in my life. Tanner, my mom, my sisters, my besties – they all have different perspectives, and sometimes they see things I don't. Like, I might be so focused on one tiny detail that I miss the bigger picture, and someone else can just swoop in and be like, "Lo, honey, what about *this*?" and it's like a lightbulb moment. I love that. I love feeling connected to them through these little everyday decisions, too. It's like we're all a team, even when it's just about what rug to get. Second, I think a part of it is just wanting to avoid regret. Hahah, I h8 that about myself, but it's true! I'm always thinking, "What if I pick this, and then I wish I picked that?" And if someone else helped me pick it, then maybe I won't feel *as* bad if it doesn't work out? I know, I know, it's a silly thought, but my brain goes there. Third, and this is a big one, sometimes I just need validation. Not in a bad way, not like I need someone to tell me I'm good enough, but more like, "Hey, this decision feels right to me, does it feel right to you too?" It's like a double-check, a little extra confidence boost. Especially when it comes to things for the girls, or for our home, I just want to make sure I'm doing the best I can for them. And hearing from people I trust, people whose judgment I respect, it just helps me feel more secure in my choices. It's a comfort thing, I guess. It makes me feel less alone in the decision-making process. And honestly, sometimes it's just fun to share the process with you guys! Your DMs and comments are always so sweet and helpful, it makes me feel like we're all just hanging out, figuring out life together. I love that sm.

Tanner's Role in My Indecisiveness (He's a Saint, Tbh)

Oh my gosh, Tanner. My poor husband. He deserves a medal, honestly. He's my ultimate hype man, but he's also the one who gets the brunt of my indecisiveness. I'll show him like, 17 different versions of the same thing – "Okay, this light fixture or THIS light fixture?" and he'll just patiently look at all of them, give his opinion, and then I'll probably still go with the one I liked in the first place, but I needed to hear him say it first hahah. He's so good at just being like, "Babe, whatever you think is best," which is sweet, but sometimes I'm like, "NO, I NEED YOUR REAL OPINION!" He's learned to give me a gentle nudge in one direction without being pushy, which is a true skill. He knows me so well. He knows when I'm just looking for permission to do what I already want to do, and he knows when I'm genuinely stuck. And he never makes me feel bad for it. He just rolls with it. I mean, he's probably secretly rolling his eyes sometimes, but he never shows it. That's true love, folks. He's always reminding me that it's okay to change my mind, or that there's no "perfect" decision, just the one we make. He's my rock, my sounding board, and my personal decision-making consultant, all rolled into one. I couldn't imagine navigating all of life's little choices without him. He's the best. ILY, T!

Learning to Trust My Gut: Tiny Steps Towards Big Confidence

So, while I'm still very much a "let's get everyone's opinion" kind of girl, I'm also trying to get better at trusting my own gut. It's a work in progress, for sure. I feel like as moms, especially, we're constantly making decisions for our kids, for our homes, for our families, and sometimes you just have to go with what feels right in your heart. One thing I've been trying to do is, when I'm faced with a decision, I try to sit with it for a minute *before* I ask anyone else. I close my eyes, take a deep breath, and just try to listen to that little voice inside me. What's my immediate reaction? What feels lighter? What feels heavier? Sometimes, that initial feeling is the right one, and I just need to give myself permission to listen to it. It's like, my intuition is there, it's just sometimes buried under all the noise of what I *think* I should do, or what others *might* think. Another thing that helps is reminding myself that most decisions aren't life or death. If I pick the wrong couch, it's not the end of the world. We can sell it, we can move it, we can learn from it. It's not permanent. And even if it's a bigger decision, like a new project or a new direction for my content, I try to remember that growth means evolving. It's okay to try something, see how it feels, and then adjust. It's not about being perfect, it's about being authentic and learning along the way. My mom always told me, "Lo, you know what's best for you and your girls." And she's right. She raised me as a single mom, always trusting her own instincts, and that's something I really admire about her. So, I'm trying to channel a little bit of that fierce mama intuition she has. It's a journey, not a destination, right? But every time I make a decision on my own and it works out, it's like a little victory dance in my head. "See, Lo? You *can* do it!"

It's Okay to Change Your Mind (Permission Granted!)

This is a big one for me, and I think it's something we all need to hear more often: it is absolutely, 100% okay to change your mind. Seriously. How many times have I picked something out, brought it home, and then been like, "Nope, this isn't it."? Too many to count, hahah. And for a long time, I used to feel so much guilt about that. Like, "Oh my gosh, I wasted money," or "I should have known better." But you know what? Life is about learning. It's about trying things, seeing what works, and adjusting. It's about evolving. And sometimes, the only way to know if something is right is to actually try it. So if you make a decision, and then later on you realize it's not working for you, or your circumstances change, or you just have a different feeling about it – that's okay! You have permission to change your mind. You have permission to pivot. You have permission to say, "You know what? This isn't serving me anymore." That's not indecisiveness, that's growth. That's self-awareness. That's being true to yourself. And that, my friends, is a superpower. So next time you're stuck, remember that even if you make a choice that isn't perfect, you can always make another choice later. The world won't end. Your family will still love you. And you'll learn something valuable along the way. That's what I'm telling myself anyway! :,)

Finding Balance: When to Ask and When to Just Do It

So, where's the sweet spot? When do I ask for opinions, and when do I just trust myself? I think it's a balance, and it's something I'm constantly figuring out. For the really big, life-altering stuff, like major family decisions or big career moves, I'm definitely going to lean on my trusted circle. Tanner, my mom, maybe a few close friends. Their input is invaluable, and it helps me see all sides. But for the smaller, everyday things – what to wear, what to cook, what filter to use on my photo hahah – I'm trying to practice just making a quick decision and moving on. It frees up so much mental energy, you guys. I've noticed that the more I practice making those small decisions quickly, the easier it gets to make slightly bigger ones. It's like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. And honestly, sometimes the best decision is just *making* a decision. Even if it's not the absolute "perfect" one, at least you're moving forward. Sitting in indecision is often more draining than making a less-than-perfect choice. So, my goal is to keep asking for opinions when I genuinely feel stuck or need a different perspective, but also to give myself more credit and trust my own instincts more often. It's a journey, and I'm just here sharing mine with you all. Thanks for always being my sounding board, my cheerleaders, and my virtual besties. You guys are the best. XOXO, Lo ❤